I recently read an article saying that road modeling is very effective: that when we model courtesy and self-control while driving, other drivers adopt those positive behaviours. According to the author, speeding drivers tend to slow down when more people are doing the speed limit.
A true master is equally happy to talk about their weaknesses and mistakes. It's good to remember that there's always more to learn, and anyway, seemingly perfect people make everyone uncomfortable. However, we can demonstrate the possibilities of being mostly happy, humble and peaceful.
Modelling allows you to teach without lecturing. A dear friend of mine who seems addicted to stress asks why I'm "so lucky" to not also be stressed out and running in circles. I reply that I'm conscious, not lucky—that I make conscious choices to live this way. I tell her that my "luck" stems from exercise, healthy eating and deliberate under-scheduling. That I pay attention to what goes in my mind: I avoid violent headlines and tv shows, try to avoid gossip, and focus on positive thoughts and actions. That living peacefully and lovingly is a choice.
Modelling spiritual and mindful growth supports your own practice. When you think of yourself as an example, you become more aware of your words and actions.
Be the speed-limit-observing, courteous driver. Be the warm spirit who lets someone ahead of you at the check-out. Be an affectionate greeting for someone you appreciate. Be the loving parent who adores your child merely because they exist. Be strong for someone in turmoil. Give love to those who seem to deserve none.
Model your goals. You’ll be amazed at how your wisdom circles back to embrace you.
