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Friday, January 28, 2011

Being Great Together

I’m great, you’re great; let’s be great together.

I meet so many people who are greater than they think. Who are under-living their lives. Who live below what they deserve and what they can accomplish. Who are not choosing to be happy.

Do you live your life as happily as you can? You can live your life as if it were already perfect. As if you were already perfect, which by the way, you are. 

Years ago, a friend of mine left her husband after he assaulted her. Reality was suddenly vastly different from her previous upper middle class lifestyle. She was almost without income, living with her infant son in a tiny apartment. She could have bemoaned her fate, but instead took a different approach. Jewel invented and hosted Oyster Nights, which consisted of us gathering at her place, wearing our fanciest clothes, and feasting on smoked oysters and Triscuits while drinking the best wine we could afford. We certainly weren’t dining at the Ritz, but our sense of abundance made us feel rich. We experienced opulence those evenings, envisioning wealth, living as if our lives were already perfect and as if we deserved it all.

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Living well is mostly in the mind. Letting go of petty obsessions frees energy and makes space for positive thoughts.

Your life is probably happier than you think. It’s a choice you can make right now. Decide you want to focus on positive aspects of life such as gratitude, abundance, and love.

Forget all those stupid grudges and little distractions. Forget fear and worry–they're only negative fantasies about the future. 

Give up gossip and rumour. In fact, give up talking about anyone not directly in the conversation. (I was shocked by how much time that frees up.)

Whenever you notice yourself being negative in thought or  communication, simply steer yourself back to positivity.

You don’t have to punish or belittle yourself; just begin noticing.

You’ll find it difficult at first, and may be shocked by how negative you are. But success will come. The more you notice and turn around negativity, the more you’ll develop the habit of positivity and service.

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Spend a couple of moments each morning planning your interior day. What’s important today – this day that you’ll never get back? What do you want to spend your energy on? What mood do you choose to be in? What are your priorities today? Who are the most important people in your world today? What do you want them to know from your heart?

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When we focus on positivity, we also free ourselves up to excel. I noticed this in taekwondo–when I focussed on positive and successful thoughts, images and conversations about my skills, I performed much better than when I used to tell myself I was no good at it.

Once I became aware of this in myself, it became blindingly obvious in others. I see so many people disempowering themselves through disorganization, self-deprecation, or simple lack of trying.

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Once you realise how happy you are, and accept that it’s ok to be happy, and are brave enough admit to happiness, you’ll see how much power you have over your life. That you pretty much can do anything, so long as you keep your focus and thoughts positive.

You have more power than you’d ever imagine. Look at what you’ve done already.